Thursday, May 28, 2015

Open to Your Eyes to a New Way of Parenting -- Never Say No: Raising Big-Picture Kids #LitfuseReads

Disclosure:  I was sent a review copy as part of the Litfuse Publicity Book Blog Tour.  In exchange for the book, I am sharing my honest review.

Never Say No

It is hard work raising a child.  And, as a parent, you will find yourself asking yourself time and again if you are doing things right...I sure do!  But, then I remind myself that we are not perfect and that with the help of God, we will be able to guide our children to becoming the best they can be.  No one is perfect, so we shouldn't be expecting the world from our children either.  This book opened my eyes to parenthood and provided relief when I read about how the two authors also struggled with parenting their two sons.

The title itself, "Never Say No" is just how Jan and Mark Foreman have chosen to raise their boys.  They call their parenting style transparenting, as if you are thinking they are crazy for never saying, "no," to their boys, you will see why it really is the perfect way to parent.  Not only do children (any age) feel they are being treated fairly, but both parents and children will feel that love is at the root of all the parenting decisions made.  Instead of using harsh discipline, the authors help guide their sons and remind them to be the best thy can be, without struggling to strive for perfection, which we all know is unachievable.  

By using transparenting, parents find themselves spending more time with their kids helping them learn more about themselves and setting the right path in their lives, with God there to help lead the way if they start to go astray.  

This was another book I found myself not being able to put down.  And, I had my highlighter (yes, old school) in hand, to mark up certain sections in this book that I wanted to revisit when I find myself questioning my parenting.  Guidance is key and being able to say "Yes" more often to your children will help our kids grow as strong, independent individuals, without all the rules one thinks they have to enforce as parents, but is oftentimes the reason why kids rebel.

"Never Say No" was truly an eye opening book about parenting and introduced me to the idea of transparenting, which I plan to use with my girls.  There is no right way or wrong way to parenting, but books like these are great in offering up suggestions to help make raising our children more enjoyable and manageable.  I highly recommend this book for parents and caregivers as a way to offer up a new approach to parenting that just might work with your family.


More About the book: 

The question Mark and Jan Foreman are most often asked is: How did you raise your kids?

"Mark and Jan Foreman's adult sons Jon and Tim Foreman of Switchfoot have influenced their world not only by a successful music career but also through their positive impact on communities around the globe. The Foreman parents instilled in their sons a belief that they could make a difference by living beyond themselves.

This powerful book gives readers an inside look at the process. It begins with both parent and child finding their identity in God. It then explores practical ways to encourage holistic learning while cultivating specific gifts, nurturing creativity in a media-saturated culture, and balancing structure with individual choice. Never Say No inspires readers to raise children to live in the wonder of life by loving others well. Parents will find encouragement for their own parenting journey as they guide their kids to live out God's purpose in radical ways."

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About the authors: 

Jan and Mark Foreman live in the San Diego area, where Mark is lead pastor of North Coast Calvary Chapel. Mark is the author of Wholly Jesus, and holds advanced degrees in Theology, Education and a Ph.D. in Counseling and Pastoral Care. Jan is a gifted teacher, artist, and she also facilitates partnerships with underprivileged women and children both locally and in developing countries. Together they love surfing, sailing, travel and especially being with their family.

Disclosure:  I was sent a review copy as part of the Litfuse Publicity Book Blog Tour.  In exchange for the book, I am sharing my honest review.

1 comment :

  1. This book sounds like one I would like to read and also pass on to some good friends.