Showing posts with label Parenting book. Show all posts
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Tuesday, December 15, 2015

A Must Read Book for Parents with Girls on How to Raise Young Women with Passion and Purpose -- BRAVE GIRLS by Stacey Radin (Book Review) #BraveGirls @UnleashedNyOrg

Disclosure: This is a sponsored post by Pivoting Media Project to raise awareness of the book and Unleashed. All opinions in this post are mine and mine alone.


Dr. Stacey Radin's mission is to build confidence in young girls,
and guide a generation to become passionate leaders.




Atria Books
288 pages
Published January 6, 2015
ISBN 9781451699302, $25.00
eBook ISBN:
9781451699326, $12.99
To purchase the book on Amazon, click here.

It wasn't until I had girls of my own that I started to really see the importance of parenting in such a way to raise strong and powerful girls who one day can become a leader.  


I don't blame my own mother for a lack of parenting when it came to raising me, as this was not the norm 30+ years ago.  Just like my mom and her mom and grandmother before her, the women in the family were raised to be nurturers and care for the family.  This meant becoming a mother and caretaker of the home and family -- A.K.A - homemaker.  Women during these time periods never thought they would grow up to be a woman leader.  But, oh times have changed.  Now, women are being raised to believe that they can do anything they want.  Some women are even becoming the primary breadwinners in the house, which would have been unheard back in the day.

While there are shifts in the right direction for women's roles in today's day and age, there are still archaic notions about what a woman should do and limits are still being placed on us.  We are still making less than our male counterparts, even though we are doing the same, if not more work than they are.  Also, men are still in the forefront of the leadership in companies, as many still feel men are the leaders and women are the supporters.



When I look at my girls I see so much possibility in what they can become as the grow and develop into strong willed women.  I try to instill "the sky's the limit" when raising them, but find myself reading articles in the paper about women taking one step forward in leadership roles and then others having them take two steps back.  Hopefully as the years go by and more and more women, who have been raised by strong willed mothers and have been given the necessary tools to be great leaders and in control of their voices, enter the workplace and rise to the top of the corporate ladder, that it will make things easier for girls growing up today, to truly thrive and achieve great things.  

While this book is geared towards parents with girls going through the middle school years, I have found it to be a great start to paving the way for my girls to build the necessary confidence and passion and drive to become powerful young leaders.  I know that back in middle school I started to get interested in science and math. And, when it came time to choosing my course load in middle and high school, I found only a handful of girls in these male dominated classes.  We found ourselves extra hard to prove to the boys and the teachers that we could handle it and excel.  Years later I still keep in touch with these girls.  Only a handful went on to pursue carries in the sciences and/or math.  Without a push from their parents and teachers those who chose alternate paths said they didn't have the confidence and passion to go the distance and achieve goals or aspirations they had partly based on their gender.  Hearing this and knowing firsthand how hard it was to get a BS in Public Health, I don't want to hear my girls tell me years later that they dreamed for more, but settled for what was expected for them.  

Thanks to research done by the author about women struggling in the professional world and realizing that it all begins in the middle school years, this book is written as a guidebook for parents and even educators to help girls reach their ultimate potential while also sharing tools to help them become confident, passionate and powerful leaders.


I found myself marking up pages that talked about contributing factors that lead to failure including bullying, fear of speaking out, excessive competition, etc. so that I could identify these patterns when my girls reach the formative middle school years and help them break these patterns, so that they can flourish and be inspired to be the next generation of strong-willed women leaders ready to conquer the world or whatever is put in front of them.

While we work to empower our children with confidence and resilience, it’s just as important to understand the systems in place that legally protect them. In Arizona, ARS 13-3623 outlines what constitutes child abuse and neglect, including emotional and physical harm. Knowing these legal definitions helps parents stay aware, spot warning signs, and advocate more effectively for their child’s safety — both at home and in the wider community.

I truly hope that one day women will be looked at as equals to when and that they will be given the same opportunities for growth within a company that brings with it equal pay and benefits.  And, my biggest hope is that my girls will be front and center to show that they are born leaders and have purpose and drive and passion -- all key ingredients that make for a powerful and successful leader.  Dream big and achieve big is what I continue to tell them, and after reading and re-reading "Brave Girls" by Stacey Radin, I now how a better sets of tools to help them grow and achieve great things.

If you are a parent to a young daughter, or know someone who is, you will want to pick up a copy of Stacey's book, "Brave Girls" to read and/or pass around.  Be sure you have a highlighting or sticky notes ready to mark up pages, as you read through this wonderfully written book that offers the necessary tools for parents (and even grandparents and caregivers) to raise young girls to stand up and fight for what they believe in, own their voice and never let someone tell them they are capable of doing something just because of their gender.  I couldn't put this book down and have been busy passing it along to friends with young girls so that they could read inspiring and moving stories of girls having their lives transformed, and how the same can be done with your own children through the useful tools and tips shared throughout the pages of this must own parenting book.

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About the Book:

BRAVE GIRLS: RAISING YOUNG WOMEN WITH PASSION AND PURPOSE TO BECOME POWERFUL LEADERS (Atria, January 6, 2015, Hardcover) is the story and the science behind this endeavor. After interviewing hundreds of high-achieving businesswomen, Dr. Radin discovered that even the country's most accomplished female professionals were often hampered by insecurity and afraid of being considered too aggressive in a business world run largely by men. She is dedicated to uncovering the inherent
strengths, value, and skills of young girls.

Dr. Radin research with these women proved that these harmful thoughts are formed in middle school, when identity development is at its peak. Even as responsible adults, women still faced the confining and outdated gender norm of the "nice little girl."

To weaken the power of this limiting message, Dr. Radin founded Unleashed, an after-school program that introduces pre-teen girls to an important social cause—animal rescue—and gives them a passion, a key element in being engaged and successful in both the workplace and in life. While the girls create solutions to the task of rescuing neglected and abused dogs, they learn compassion and resilience, how to interact with peers with empathy and respect, and develop resourcefulness and critical thinking skills. “A solid resource for parents and educators working with middle school girls; the program goals can be adapted to other issues.

BRAVE GIRLS will show educators and parents how to recognize and encourage the confidence and leadership potential of young girls, and demonstrate how making them aware of their strengths is valuable not only to them, but to society as a whole.

The vision of Unleased is "to unleash the power of girls, investing in the next generation of female change-makers." Readers of Radin’s empowering book will feel inspired and hopeful that this group of girls will permanently smash the glass ceiling."

About the Author:

Stacey Radin : portraits

Stacey Radin is a psychologist, researcher, and consultant who has dedicated her career to the development of girls and women. She is the founder and president of Corporate Equilibrium, specializing in the psychology of organizational effectiveness, and a member of the United Nation’s Working Group on Girls. 

About Unleashed:



Founded in 2010 by psychologist and leadership consultant Dr. Stacey Radin (Psy.D), Unleashed is a twelve-week after-school program currently in place in fifteen schools & three community centers in the U.S. 

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To date they have served over 300 girls, rescued over 400 puppies, and run 24 programs in more than 15 schools. The program seeks to "revolutionize gender in our society" by teaching pre-teen girls to take charge in the goal of dog rescue. By becoming experts in animal rights and welfare, Dr. Radin coaches girls to think big, collaborate, and discover and exercise their power to make a difference in society and take a stand against injustice.

To learn more about Unleased and author Stacey Radin, visit her website at : www.unleashedny.org/author/stacey-radin
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To get involved in Unleased, visit http://www.unleashedny.org/get-involved
Disclosure: This is a sponsored post by Pivoting Media Project to raise awareness of the book and Unleashed. All opinions in the above post are mine and mine alone.

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Thursday, May 28, 2015

Open to Your Eyes to a New Way of Parenting -- Never Say No: Raising Big-Picture Kids #LitfuseReads

Disclosure:  I was sent a review copy as part of the Litfuse Publicity Book Blog Tour.  In exchange for the book, I am sharing my honest review.

Never Say No


It is hard work raising a child.  And, as a parent, you will find yourself asking yourself time and again if you are doing things right...I sure do!  But, then I remind myself that we are not perfect and that with the help of God, we will be able to guide our children to becoming the best they can be.  No one is perfect, so we shouldn't be expecting the world from our children either.  This book opened my eyes to parenthood and provided relief when I read about how the two authors also struggled with parenting their two sons.

The title itself, "Never Say No" is just how Jan and Mark Foreman have chosen to raise their boys.  They call their parenting style transparenting, as if you are thinking they are crazy for never saying, "no," to their boys, you will see why it really is the perfect way to parent.  Not only do children (any age) feel they are being treated fairly, but both parents and children will feel that love is at the root of all the parenting decisions made.  Instead of using harsh discipline, the authors help guide their sons and remind them to be the best thy can be, without struggling to strive for perfection, which we all know is unachievable.  

By using transparenting, parents find themselves spending more time with their kids helping them learn more about themselves and setting the right path in their lives, with God there to help lead the way if they start to go astray.  

This was another book I found myself not being able to put down.  And, I had my highlighter (yes, old school) in hand, to mark up certain sections in this book that I wanted to revisit when I find myself questioning my parenting.  Guidance is key and being able to say "Yes" more often to your children will help our kids grow as strong, independent individuals, without all the rules one thinks they have to enforce as parents, but is oftentimes the reason why kids rebel.

"Never Say No" was truly an eye opening book about parenting and introduced me to the idea of transparenting, which I plan to use with my girls.  There is no right way or wrong way to parenting, but books like these are great in offering up suggestions to help make raising our children more enjoyable and manageable.  I highly recommend this book for parents and caregivers as a way to offer up a new approach to parenting that just might work with your family.

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More About the book: 

The question Mark and Jan Foreman are most often asked is: How did you raise your kids?

"Mark and Jan Foreman's adult sons Jon and Tim Foreman of Switchfoot have influenced their world not only by a successful music career but also through their positive impact on communities around the globe. The Foreman parents instilled in their sons a belief that they could make a difference by living beyond themselves.

This powerful book gives readers an inside look at the process. It begins with both parent and child finding their identity in God. It then explores practical ways to encourage holistic learning while cultivating specific gifts, nurturing creativity in a media-saturated culture, and balancing structure with individual choice. Never Say No inspires readers to raise children to live in the wonder of life by loving others well. Parents will find encouragement for their own parenting journey as they guide their kids to live out God's purpose in radical ways."

Purchase a copy:
 http://bit.ly/1PL7VrW

About the authors: 


Jan and Mark Foreman live in the San Diego area, where Mark is lead pastor of North Coast Calvary Chapel. Mark is the author of Wholly Jesus, and holds advanced degrees in Theology, Education and a Ph.D. in Counseling and Pastoral Care. Jan is a gifted teacher, artist, and she also facilitates partnerships with underprivileged women and children both locally and in developing countries. Together they love surfing, sailing, travel and especially being with their family.


Disclosure:  I was sent a review copy as part of the Litfuse Publicity Book Blog Tour.  In exchange for the book, I am sharing my honest review.
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Sunday, March 29, 2015

A Must Read for All Parents (Especially Those With Teens) -- 'Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love with Expectations and Protection with Trust' (Review) #sponsored

 Disclosure:  This is a sponsored Role Mommy post in which I will be compensated for my time.  However, all views shared are mine and mine alone.



It has been a while since I have picked up a book today -- if I recall right, the last book I read was around Christmas.  So, when I was recently asked to read two books for a review/feature, I used this as an opportunity to get back into reading...and, boy, did I miss it!  

The first book I was sent to read, and was able to finish in a weekend was "Raising Kids to Thrive:  Balancing Love with Expectations and Protection With Trust" by Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS ED, FAAP, along with Ilana Ginsburg and Talia Ginsburg, Dr. Ginsburg's teen daughters.  Unlike othert parenting books I have read, which are usually written from a parents point of view, this was included views by the author's daughters, as well as hundreds of other teens from across the country, on a multitude of topics.  From sharing their thoughts on love, trust, safety, honesty and independence, the reader (usually a parent) can see what teens think of these topics that parents find themselves struggling to fight a happy medium with, while also remaining the parent and enforcing the groundwork they are laying so that their children and grow and flourish.

Even though my girls are still young, I am finding books like this one extremely useful in how I parent.  I want them to feel like they can come to me whenever they have a problem or need direction, without feeling scared or embarressed.  

This book, along with research shared by Dr. Ginsburg and firsthand responses from teens and his daughters is helping me recognize that there is a time for parenting and a time for letting my girls experience things on their own in order to learn and build self-confidence.  I, for one, find it hard to loosen the reins and let the girls venture off on their own.  I feel that I need to be holding their hand or hovering over them, in case I have to step in and assist.  But, my girls, just like the teens who shared their thoughts in this book, tell me that they are "big girls" and can do things on their own.   Yes, boundaries are needed when you are parent and raising children (of all ages), but we have to also have faith in our kids and know that what we have instilled in them thus far, will allow them to learn life lessons on their own, without our hand holding.

About this book:


"…loving our kids unconditionally yet still hold high expectations for them; when love feels conditional (when parental affection is solely shown in response to grades, performance, or behaviors) kids experience an ever-present sense of pressure.
…Accept that our children (and adults) are “uneven" kids: the importance of expecting growth and not perfection from our children. 
….Holding our kids to high moral standards, while also being a role model for those standards.
….Recognizing and coping with stress.
...when to set boundaries and when to get out of kids’ way: how to set clear expectations about risky behaviors
…how to start meaningful conversations with our children by becoming a sounding board and not necessarily a dictator
reduce anxiety – for themselves and their kids – as they venture out on their own and move into adulthood

In his latest book --  Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love With Expectations and Protection With Trust (American Academy of Pediatrics, March 24, 2015) -- best-selling author, pediatrician and resilience expert, Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP, offers essential tips on fostering resilience in teens.  He gently helps parents understand how they can meet the challenge to balance unconditional love, yet still hold high expectations for their children.  Through his “Lighthouse Parenting Strategy,” he also helps parents recognize when to set boundaries and when to get out of kids’ ways.
This groundbreaking book includes two chapters written by Dr. Ginsburg’s twin teenage daughters, and interweaves opinions and input of over 500 adolescents who participated in the “Youth View” chapters.  By combining the wealth of experience from Dr. Ginsburg and insightful commentary from today’s teenagers, Raising Kids to Thrive offers a fresh take on how to successfully parent teens in today’s complicated world.
Raising Kids to Thrive will help parents to raise kids who thrive for lifetime by:
  • Balancing unconditional love with high expectations.
  • Eliminate the need for helicopter or “tiger” parenting.
  • Start meaningful conversations with their children by being a sounding board, not necessarily a dictator.
  • Become a stable beacon so their children can turn to them for guidance and self-measurement.
  • Understand and accept that people are uneven and the importance of expecting growth, not perfection from children.
  • Reduce anxiety – for themselves and their kids – as they venture out on their own and move into adulthood.
  • Holding our kids to high moral standards, while also being a role model for those standards.
“People are uneven,” says Dr. Ginsburg. “Highly successful people are great at something, and their desire to explore other areas is what makes them interesting.” He adds, “We harm kids when we suggest that to make it in this world they must be good at absolutely everything.”"
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The book itself is broken down into 4 parts.  The first part deals with unconditional love versus high expectations, which is comprised of seven chapters and a reflections and discussion at the end.  These chapters deal with setting expectations as a parent in such a way that kids will not feel stressed or anxious if they don't perform up to our standards, but can also be successful.

The second part is about "Protection Versus Learning From Life's Lessons, is also made up of seven chapters, followed by a reflection and discussion section.  This was the hardest part to read, and had be highlighting many points made by the author, as it dealt with learning the difference between protection and preparation.  It also talked about love boundaries and preparing children for a stressful world.  Kids want to rush to be adults as they feel they will have for freedoms, but they don't realize that being an adult carries more responsibilities and stress.  I personally liked the "Navigational Strategies" chapter, which dealt with ways to handle life's stressors, with useful tips and strategies, ranging from staying organized to self-care and even presentation and self-advocacy skills.

The third part, which was the shortest, but a real eye opener in regards to how our children see things, was titled, "The Voice of Youth."  The three chapters making up this section dealt with the youth perspective on love versus expectations and protection versus trust.  I can see this being a very important section for parents of tweens/teens to read, so that they can maybe rethink their parenting or expectations of their children.

The last part is titled "Rebooting: Moving Toward the Relationship You Hope to Have" has six chapters.  After reading the chapters I could see this section being one parents and children will want to read and then gather to talk about.  I know as a parent I want my children to have a healthy relationship with me and know they can turn to me for anything.  But, there will come times that they will rebel and think they have all the answers, and this is when communication is key.  Part 4 does an amazing job at sharing useful information for parents (and kids) about listening and talking, guiding your children to find their own solutions, as well as offering a space for change.  

If was I was to recommend one chapter out of the whole book to focus on, it would be the last chapter (chapter 23), which is for young people and deals with the first steps toward a better relationship with your parent.Kids will learn how to have a real conversation with their parents, when they need to apologize or how to regain trust, seeing your parents strengths and that they are looking out for your best interest, and most importantly listening and being open to criticism and direction.

Overall, I found this book to be very enlightening and one I wholeheartedly recommend to parents of children (of any age).  This is one book I will be keeping on my bookcase and pulling out time and again to reference when I find myself struggling to guide my girls or having that relationship I had hoped for with them.  Like I said earlier, I read this book in a weekend, as I couldn't put it down.  I found myself wanting to read on and learn ways to be a more successful parent to my girls.

The book is available to purchase right now in Kindle format for only $9.59 and as a paperback book from Amazon for only $13.56.  Click here to order now.  This book, which released on March 24th (this past week) is also available at bookstores nationwide and online as well as from shop.AAP.org/books, the award-winning AAP Web site for parents.



ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Kenneth R. Ginsburg, M.D., M.S. Ed, FAAP  is a specialist in adolescent medicine at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP) and a professor or pediatrics at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine.  He is also director of health services at Covenant House Pennsylvania. He has over 100 publications, including 30 scientific articles and 5 books including the award-winning / best-selling  Building Resilience in Children and Teens (American Academy of Pediatrics). He drafted the AAP policy statement on The Power of Play and has been an expert source for several prominent parenting news articles and reports in media outlets such as The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, USA Today, TIME Magazine, ABC News, Yahoo! Parenting, NBC News and CNN. He is working with The Boys and Girls Clubs of America to incorporate resilience-building strategies into their programming. He is also honored to be working with military parents and professionals to incorporate stress reduction and resilience building strategies into the lives of our nearly 2 million military-affiliated children. His greatest privilege is to be a husband and the father of two teenaged daughters.
 Disclosure:  This is a sponsored Role Mommy post in which I will be compensated for my time.  However, all views shared are mine and mine alone.

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